Have you ever wondered: this girl is cute, it’s a shame I don’t know if she likes me or not?I don’t know about you, but I often think that people should send clear signals about whether they like us or not.Likewise, if you hide yourself under too many layers and unflattering shapes, he’ll be equally put off. You won’t notice it, but within 45 seconds of sitting he’ll have checked the state of your dress, hair, make-up and yes…even your chipped nails.If these things aren’t in tip-top condition then forget about a whirlwind romance, as Virgo men cannot comprehend untidiness in a person.I can’t go into as much depth as I’d like to in this post, but men and women have different senses of how they’d like to be noticed for things (and what they’d like to be noticed for.) At the root of it, when a man feels like he make a woman happy, he will not want to be in a relationship with her (or if he stays, he will not want to deepen it). Back to neediness: When a woman starts acting needy, especially in the beginning of a relationship, it shows up as the ultimate red flag. Neediness is synonymous with ’emotional dependency’, as in: “This woman is dependent on the guy in order for her to feel good.” Now, sometimes when I start explaining this, I’ll get a comment saying, “Oh so what? You can have it all, too, but what I’m trying to explain in this article is that you don’t get it from it.On the other hand, when a woman acknowledges him for all the things he’s doing well, he will almost certainly want to deepen the relationship and stay in it. We’re supposed to be emotional robots with no feelings or desires and just accept anything a guy is doing without complaint? You create a relationship with those qualities by inspiring those things within the relationship.
I once ended a relationship with a girl because she’d never heard of the hospital superbug bacteria, MRSA.Every once in a while, I like to poll my readers on the Nerd Love Facebook Page and on Twitter to find out what issues they feel are holding them back when it comes to dating.And the most common answer is: “I worry that I’m too fat to date.” I’ll be honest: I’m not surprised. According to the Center for Disease Control, 69% of adults 20 years old and over are overweight and 35% are considered obese.The problem with neediness is that instead of inspiring all of those positive relationship qualities, the “needy person” acts as if their partner is denying them those good relationship qualities…like they’re entitled to them and their partner is cruelly withholding it.